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As a specialist in relationships, my focus is on fostering deep intimacy and connection between you and your partner. I view your relationship as my primary client, and I gauge the success of our work by the vitality of your connection in meeting your individual desires and needs. Rather than solving a potential conflict myself, my aim is to grow your own capacity as a couple in facilitating a healthy repair as well as strengthening your capacity for deeper connection at times of rupture.

 

Having experienced the profound importance of strong partnership in my own life, I prioritize nurturing intimacy and supporting couples in attending to their relationship like they would to a garden. Couples therapy tends to offer a fertile ground for growth in this area by attending to childhood relational wounds, understanding projections, fostering new ways of connecting in the here and now context of a therapy session and nourishing vulnerability that brings new strength. I value openness, honesty and progressive communication when working with couples. No topics are off limits and all your relational dynamics and expressions of your unique couple’s culture are welcome here. I do my best to learn your specific communication style soon, appreciate your strengths as a couple, celebrate your uniqueness and assist you in finding our own tools for connection in therapy that makes sense.

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Navigating the process of choosing a couples therapist can be daunting, given the array of approaches available. In my practice, I employ a psychodynamic approach alongside insights from Imago couples therapy, family constellations, and psychodrama techniques. However, beyond theories and tools, I prioritize the establishment of a strong therapeutic alliance grounded in trust, openness, and progressive communication.

 

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WHAT TO EXPECT:

 

To gain a comprehensive understanding of your relationship, I offer a four-session assessment process first. Here three of us have an opportunity to discuss your history together as well as each partner's attachment history to make sense of the current personal dynamics. By delving into the past, we can uncover how it influences present conflicts and dynamics and start changing the future of your relationship. In this assessment phase, I work collaboratively with both of you to identify core relational conflict and goals for therapy. Once we identify the core pattern of your main argument, we start experimenting with new ways of responding to the old triggering dynamic you are struggling with. New practices of communication and being with each other are invited at this stage. I see couples work as a greenhouse—by composting old feelings, it provides them with nutrients and safe conditions for new relational dynamics to take deep roots to sustain the future growth.

 

One of the most rewarding aspects of my work is witnessing couples develop a newfound curiosity about each other as well as different, more reality based experience of each other in the relationship. A deep sense of warmth and compassion around your own and your partner’s old relational wounds is a gift for a therapist. A newly discovered curiosity, spontaneity, spaciousness and healthy risks replace old projections and distortions.